Helping you help yourself

Jan 19th, 2012 | By | Category: Hypnosis and NLP in the News

We hear so much about professional life coaches, but often fail to understand what they do, so this week we get back to basics and ask — Why use a professional coach?

Personal and executive coaching is becoming more popular as people realise just how effective coaching is. A professional coach can help you to overcome addictions and phobias, advance in your career, or improve your interpersonal relationships. An executive coach can help identify problems in the workplace and facilitate remedies or help employees in terms of leadership development and team cohesion.

A professional coach draws on a number of disciplines in order to help every individual, from career counselling to psychology, from sociology to Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP).

A life coach or executive coach doesn’t train in the traditional sense that an athletic coach might. A professional coach draws out your potential rather than directing you; they facilitate rather than form. The professional coach uses empathy and reflection so that you gain true understanding and perspective about yourself.

The professional coach:

· Helps you to get a comprehensive view of your current state, including your assumptions, beliefs and perceptions

· Helps you to set realistic and relevant goals for yourself

· Helps you on a path toward continual learning and reflection

· Supports you to recognize and deal with your own obstacles

· Pushes you out of your comfort zone

· Continually helps you to re-assess your needs and goals

So why use a professional coach rather than buying another self-help book or programme? As coach Dave Buck asks, “How many times have you attended a training programme and left with BIG ideas and insights that were going to change your world, only to find that three weeks later nothing has changed?”

Or how many times have you bought a self-help book with every intention of fully applying yourself only to procrastinate, skip exercises, or eventually put it aside altogether?

Buck adds, “Imagine instead the trainer is also a certified coach. Rather than train and dash, he or she is qualified to stay involved in your life to support the implementation and integration of what you have learned. He or she can understand the details of your personal situation as well as your strengths and weaknesses and create a personalised approach that really works.

Imagine the manager who is a certified coach. After he or she sends you off to the training program they coach you day by day to put the best of what you have learned into practice. When you get frustrated and fall back on old habits, he or she can get to the source of the problem by expanding your awareness of feeling and limiting thoughts. Then they help you redesign your environments so that your new way of working is sustainable.”

The professional coach gives you support and provides accountability. They are able to customise any programme to your needs as they arise and they have the insight, objectivity and perspective to see you, and to help you see yourself, clearly.

We often keep our insecurities and weaknesses under wraps and some of our most pervasive limiting beliefs are often the most obscure to us. The professional coach can help root these assumptions out so that you may change them.

Another way a professional coach helps you is through the power of commitment. When you both commit to the relationship, the energy of the commitment is maximised in a way that the force of just one person cannot hope to achieve.

A professional coach is flexible and reactive in ways that a book can never be. Your programme will be continually adjusted and be individualised according to what you accomplish and what needs arise.

Hypnotherapy and NLP are two of the most powerful tools the professional coach brings to the table. Throughout our lives we’ve taken in tons of information and had a wide variety of experiences. Many things have gone into shaping our world views and oftentimes, the way we perceive the world is distorted by our constructs.

When a professional coach uses hypnotherapy, they help make positive suggestions to you when you are in a receptive state. This can be used to help you relax and combat stress, recover traumatic experiences and realise how they’ve affected you, increase your confidence and self-esteem and get past addictions, phobias or physical pain.

Hypnotherapy isn’t a matter of you being under someone else’s control: it is a state of highly focused consciousness that allows you to get past your conscious mindset and access the roots of your emotions and memories in the subconscious mind. You are never out of control and this kind of suspended thinking is freeing and relaxing.

Neuro-linguistic Programming (NLP) is a cognitive-behavioural form of therapy. The techniques used in NLP contribute to self-discovery and then self-transformation. NLP techniques can be used with individuals and organisations.

Using tools to analyse your communication and inner dialogue, NLP uncovers negative emotions and the thoughts behind them. Many of these thoughts and emotions affect our every day actions in ways that aren’t readily known to us. We suppress our emotions and operate according to limiting beliefs all of the time. NLP can help bring these to the surface so that we can then clear these obstacles away and begin functioning in a whole new way.

Professional coaching is priceless in ways that a self-help book or other programmes can never be. Commitment, accountability, customisation and the mind techniques of hypnotherapy and NLP — these are the reasons everyone can benefit from professional coaching.

wknd@khaleejtimes.com

 

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